So, by day I am a hairstylist and I always find it funny how many people think I am judging their hair all the time. I honestly don't look at your hair and think "OH MY GOD! Does she even own a mirror!" Not that I don't notice truly horrific hair, but I am trained to look at a person as a whole, and so often hair is a reflection of the persons general attitude about life. Easy hair - easy going, complicated style - complicated life.
People who spend hours fussing about their hair are often not very fun to be around and they are always late and fishing for compliments. I mean really....it is JUST hair. It won't make you a better person, smarter, loved more and if you aren't pretty on the inside...it will only help for so long.
Your hair needs to be a reflection of you, but you should not live for your hair. I know, you can't believe a hairstylist would say this. I try to talk with you about your limits. Do you own a curling iron and if so can you use one without burning yourself or your hair to a crisp? In your dream world I know you want to get out of bed with your hair looking perfect, but that ain't happening. My job is to take the raw materials that grow out of your head and make them look as good as possible using only the tools you really can use. This usually means a blow dryer and your hand and if I am lucky a brush.
If you have curly hair, quit beating it to a pulp and wear your curls with pride. Use products to help with the fuzzies and keep it moisturized. Straight hair, talk to the curly haired people, they would kill for your hair. Remember, it is way easier to add the curls than to straighten curly hair. But you both have nothing to complain about, as long as you have "good" hair. You know those people. Not too thick, not too thin, does what they want (within reason) nice color.
For those of you with "bad" hair. Your hair doesn't want to be bad, it was just born that way! You need to find a stylist like me that will work with you to maximize your hair potential and teach you how to optimize what you have. If all else fails, there are alternatives to consider and I know about those too. My favorite clients are the ones who never thought their hair would look good too, and somehow I wave my magic comb and help them.
And yes, we know most of you cut on your hair at some point in time. You really can't hide it from us, but we understand. What you need to understand is that you usually make it worse not better. So hug your hairdresser today. She or he must love what they do to put up with all of you (and you know who you are). I have only fired 2 clients in 20 years.
And for a commentary from your side, check out this funny blog post from the Yarn Harlot. She was lucky her stylist didn't know how to knit.